Surely more than once you have seen your child so immersed in an activity that it seems to cut any connection with the world. You have probably seen it when you play, listen to music, draw, or are with your friends, the truth is that it can also happen when it comes to studies. Research by psychologist Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi showed that when fully immersed in an activity, This “disconnection” is highly positive because it activates feelings of happiness and euphoria, fostering interest in the same activity in the future.
These are according to Nora Rodríguez, executive director of Happy School Institute and creator of the LAZOS Digital program, some of the existing tricks to activate fluency in studies, when school enters the homes.
1- Challenge them when learning something new that requires medium effort.
The challenges have activated certain forms of healthy competitiveness. If the challenge that parents pose is too difficult for their children, they may not dare. The important thing is that it requires a certain level of commitment and desire to show that they know how to do things on their own.
2. Let him choose how he wants to do his activities.
That is: allow it to be as autonomous as it wants, it is likely that it will not do things in the parental way, that at first it wastes time, but what it is about is to assess the level of commitment. In general, children who feel that their parents support them in the development of their autonomy in the medium term are more competent and less anxious.
3. Try to make it clear to him the end purpose of the activity.
The feeling of “flowing” with an activity is achieved only when there is a clear direction, such as making a drawing, playing a melody. It is important that parents help their children to perceive how with their efforts they are approaching the goal, each time they resume the activity, although the comments are better when they have finished, since the immersion states must never be interrupted total in activity.
4. Choose spaces in your home that allow deep concentration.
Although with everyone at home, working and studying can be difficult to get, sometimes a good alternative is to give them a space that is special for the whole family at different times. These spaces can be used by the children to solve problems, create musical pieces, or any work of art. The goal is for them to be spaces that induce fluidity.
5. Supports their interests.
Find out what your child is passionate about and buy them books that allow them to meet new perspectives for their interests, or let them collaborate as a volunteer even though it is an online activity. Help him find structured school clubs or activities that relate to his broader interests, they will likely feel that they allow him to be motivated and committed to high interests and that benefit other people. The goal is for you to have a strong sense of purpose and feel that you contribute to the betterment of the world.
6. Talk about values and strengths
In childhood, values revolve around friends and heroes, but not in adolescents. They focus on higher and more abstract values such as equality, diversity, justice, common good, community … These ideals are of great help to them, since they allow them to identify the potential strengths of their character, such as kindness, work in team, fairness and leadership, and to launch your strengths. Take advantage of moments of family connection to enhance in conversations the ideals that allow them to feel as committed citizens and devise solidarity activities or create forms of social improvement.
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